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The Simple Key to Happier Feelings

Money? Nope.

Fame? Nah.

Good looks? Nuh-uh.

None of these things paves the road to happiness.

What does? Science says you’ll have to look inside. Turns out that PERSONAL GROWTH is one of the keys to glad feelings, researchers have determined.So focus on self-improvement daily, whether it’s taking better care of your health, doing things that give you confidence, or journaling to understand yourself better.

Joyful Goal Getting Yep, we all have a fundamental psychological need to make our own choices, feel a sense of accomplishment, and connect deeply with others. Which is why personal development is ground zero for good vibrations.

And a recent study of newly graduated college students helped prove it. Those who spent their first 2 years out of school pursuing materialistic goals (think wealth, looks, and fame) were far less happy than students who achieved more intrinsic personal goals, like getting involved in their communities, nurturing close friendships, and working on inner growth.

Inner Happiness Reigns

In fact, the materialistic students’ goals actually contributed slightly to their unhappiness. So don’t go there! Instead, formulate your own personal development goals, and use these tips to help you achieve them:

Believe. Yes, you can do it! In fact, the college student study confirmed that the more committed someone is to attaining a goal, the more likely he or she will succeed.

Love. Your life, that is. It’s a gift!

Laugh. With others.

This article is quoted from the following source:  http://www.realage.com/tips/the-simple-key-to-happier-feelings.

The reason it caught my eye was the fact that it focuses on the importance of PERSONAL GROWTH.   I believe wholeheartedly in the power of personal development based on my own experience and what I have seen happen in the lives of others.

I am delighted to be an independent distributor for the Polaris Media Group.  The company is built upon the belief that, given practical education, every individual has the ability to realize their inherent potential and live a life of personal fulfillment.

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September 28, 2009 at 11:59 am Leave a comment

WHAT IS LOVE?

What a question!  There have been many songs, poems, books and articles written on the topic, but I think the media has done us no favours when it comes to our understanding of what love is.      Love_heart_uidaodjsdsew

When love is portrayed as something that happens to us by chance  – we “fall in love”, self responsibility is removed.  If we later “fall out of love” it is not our fault – we can’t be blamed because we didn’t choose for it to happen in the first place.

In relationships many people think that love is a feeling, and that when the feeling fades or disappears, the love is gone and they should move on.  I believe that love is more a choice than a feeling.  We can choose to act on principles rather than feelings, so we can choose to love even though we may not “feel” like it.  It is when the initial rush of being “in love” fades and we are faced with a choice as to how we behave that the work of real love can begin.

Love is also an action word.  It is not something to just reflect upon or talk about – it is something you do.  The desire to love is not love. Love is as love does.

Love has to start with self, but it is not selfish.  It is not possible to love someone else if you do not love yourself, but love which is ultimately selfish and self serving is not love at all.  True love will seek what is best for others, without ensuring satisfaction of our own desires.  And what is best for others is not what WE think is best for them.  Love gives the space and freedom for them to make those decisions for themselves.

Love encourages growth of ourselves and others.  Our unconditional love frees another from the fear of disapproval to be true to themselves and reach their highest potential.  Love  at times has to be tough.  Growth requires hard work which we would rather avoid.  Real love does not facilitate the stagnation of our own or another’s development, but confronts, encourages and supports growth.

So I think love is a choice, an action, which starts with self and encourages growth.  You may disagree with me.  It is not easy to define love.  There is a definition by M Scott Peck in his book “The Road Less Travelled” which I really like.  It is:

I define love thus:  The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.

The next 16 chapters of his book expand upon his definition.  It makes for very good reading.

Please share with me your response to the question:  What is love? by leaving a comment below.

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September 20, 2009 at 1:37 pm 1 comment

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September 5, 2009 at 3:33 pm Leave a comment

SUCCESS IS A CHOICE

I think there are a lot of people who would argue with me on that. They think success is something that happens to them, if they are lucky.

Some people consider themselves really unlucky and believe that success will never come to them. People who think of themselves as not being successful usually have plenty of reasons why. Perhaps it’s because …………

* I don’t live in the right location
* It’s a consequence of the way my parents brought me up
* I haven’t received the recognition I deserve
* the opportunities have just not been there for me
* ___________ won’t cooperate with me
* (you fill in the blank)

Just think for a moment – are these really reasons, or are they excuses? Do you know of ANYBODY who has succeeded despite “living in the wrong location”? Anybody who has succeeded despite the way their parents raised them? Anybody who has gone on to succeed despite not having gained recognition for their efforts? So are these things reasons why we can’t be successful, or obstacles to be overcome on the way to success?

What is success anyway? Is it having a certain level of income, having a particular type of car, living in a fantastic house? A lot of people have those things but are not happy.

While success is usually tied to an achievement or a material acquisition, success is not the actual thing, but it is really the FEELING that those things represent. For example, you train hard, you win a race. You put the trophy on the shelf. Every time you look at it, you feel great. Is it the trophy itself that makes you feel great? No, it is the achievement it represents. You look at the trophy, remember what it took to win it and FEEL a success energy.

So if success is a feeling, then success is also a CHOICE. You can choose how you feel. (If you are not convinced of that it is another whole topic that I’m not going into right now.) If success is a feeling you can teach yourself to feel successful every minute of every day. Focus on your successes, build the success energy in your life. Remember that you get more of what you focus on, so more success will come your way.

CHOOSE SUCCESS, don’t wait for it to magically happen to you.

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September 1, 2009 at 11:04 pm Leave a comment


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