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If your why is strong enough you WILL succeed. There are two aspects to goal setting: TO BE (why) and TO DO (how).

I will talk about the TO DO aspect of goal setting in my next blog.

In this blog I want to talk about the TO BE aspect – this is vital for sustaining momentum and keeping the motivation thing happening.

We all start off so enthusiastically when we have a new goal, and we have the best of intentions, but sometimes the energy just seems to drain out of it over time. Perhaps we have come up against a big obstacle and are tempted to cave in. Or maybe we find ourselves continually sabotaging our efforts to pursue the goal we say we want and are feeling really frustrated.

Do you want to push through and achieve your goals? Let me ask you some big questions……

What do you want TO BE? What is your vision of yourself for the future? What are you trying to achieve (end result), and why do you want to achieve it?

Having a cause or reason outside yourself or bigger than yourself can be very motivating. For example:

  • I want to be a model for my two boys in how to eat and exercise so as to enjoy lasting health and wellness.

  • I want to demonstrate for my children how satisfying it is to set goals, achieve and be successful in life.

  • I want to be fit and healthy so that I have the energy to engage in activities with my kids.

  • Another motivation for me is that I don’t want to die while my boys are still young (as my mother did). I want to be around to watch my children grow into adulthood and enjoy my grandchildren and great-grandchildren!

My intrinsic (internal) motivations concern things associated with my character: truth-telling, trustworthiness and integrity. When I set a goal for myself, am I going to do what I said I would do? I want to develop a strength of character that has the guts and determination to persevere and to overcome obstacles along the way. I don’t want to be a quitter. I don’t want to get to the end of my life and be filled with regret about the things I didn’t achieve, about the goals I gave up on, about the potential I had but never realised.

What about you?

What are YOUR motivators? What is your WHY??? If your why is strong enough, then believe me you will find a how. If your why is strong enough, you won’t give up. If your why is strong enough, you won’t be derailed. If your why is strong enough you WILL succeed.

If you are having trouble with setting or keeping performance goals (to do goals), then you need to examine your WHY. Make an appointment with yourself to ask and answer the questions above.

Have you put your WHY into words (written it down somewhere)? I know it requires some effort, but this really is a must do. It is so worthwhile.

Allow youself some quiet time to reflect. What will your life be like when you have achieved your goal? What will be different? How will it feel? What will you do? What opportunities that are currently closed to you will open up once you achieve your goal? Describe it. Write it all down in the present tense, as if you have already achieved it. Include as many of your senses as possible in your description, for example (with a fat loss goal) imagine –

  • How much you enjoy the taste of healthy, nourishing foods that support your body.

  • How good it feels to take a deep breath and feel the peace and clarity comes from being mentally energised.

  • How strong your arms and legs feel from your exercise sessions.

  • How light and bouncy you feel when you run now that the excess weight is gone.

  • How great you look in your new jeans!

Get the idea? Then read your goal and the description of how it feels to achieve it every day without fail.

If your why is strong enough you WILL succeed.

Here’s to your success. Contact me: if I can help in any way.

Be your best.


February 5, 2009 at 8:54 am Leave a comment

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